[NTLK] Frank's still here, although but barely
rufuskohn at gmail.com
Mon May 20 02:36:54 EDT 2019
Your story would make a movie worthwhile watching.
Op zo 19 mei 2019 23:46 schreef <tonykan at xtra.co.nz>:
> Hi Frank
> Back in 2008 we went back to China to find my grandfather's ancestral
> He had left it in 1902 after a drought-led famine drove the adults to send
> their children away.
> When we found it, the neighbours allowed us to inspect the house which
> turned out to be a sizable estate, with courtyards, and servants quarters.
> They said it hadn't been inhabited for nearly 90 years so we were
> surprised to see that it was in amazingly good condition.
> We asked the 80-year old lady who had been looking after it. She said,
> why, we have been.
> But why would you do such a thing?
> My grandfather, said the elderly lady, told us to look after it because
> one day you would be back. He was right, for here you are.
> My cousin burst into tears.
> We felt guilty that they had spent their own money to keep up the house
> over nearly a century with no guarantee of payment.
> We offered to take possession of the house and take up our responsibility.
> They said that our grandfather had two siblings who would have a claim
> over the house. Where were they?
> We had no idea. No contact had been had with them for maybe fifty years
> and no surviving family members had their contact details and we were
> unsure what part of the world they were now.
> My father passed away back in 2015.
> He didn't hoard throw much away either.
> There were stacks of old invoices for utilities going back fifty years.
> Alone in the house, being the eldest it fell on me to tidy the estate.
> Like you, no offers from the other siblings to help.
> It was tempting to throw them all away but there was a risk that a
> valuable document might be falsely filed in one of the piles of paper.
> So I set to work and amongst the power bills of 1972, there was a scrap of
> paper with a Chinese name and a north American telephone number on it.
> It dawned on me that with a smartphone in my pocket, I could solve the
> mystery by immediately dialling it.
> It turned out to be my father's long lost first cousin and through this
> discovery we have since re-connected with the descendants of both my
> grandfather's siblings.
> Tony Kan
> New Zealand
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> Subject: Re: [NTLK] Frank's still here, although but barely
> Hang in there! There IS light at the end of the tunnel. I ‘enjoyed’
> disposing of my parent’s estate after my Dad suddenly passed while visiting
> his siblings out of state. While not a hoarder, he didn’t throw much
> away. We had a 8-place dining room table in his house that was under 2
> feet of old mail. A dumpster took care of most of that, then the estate
> sale fixed the rest. After the house was emptied, we spent money getting
> it completely repainted, and new flooring installed on the first floor. We
> still got almost nothing for the place. Although it was big, it was the
> biggest house in a neighborhood of small houses, so that bit us hard.
> But as others have said, take care of yourself first!! And it’s not a sin
> to take a day off from it every now and then. That process is not a
> sprint, it’s a marathon, so don’t knock yourself out up front.
> Gene Beaird,
> Pearland, Texas
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